Showing posts with label Relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Relationship. Show all posts

Monday, December 30, 2013

2014 Relationship Goals: Girls' Nights!


Last year, my only goal was to have Monthly Date Nights with my husband Aaron.  I'd definitely like to repeat that this year as a major goal.  Below, I've created a table of some of the date nights we did last year in conjunction with a few we meant to, but didn't because we couldn't afford it.


As for my second goal, I'd like to also have Monthly Girls' Nights.  Working from home can be incredibly lonely.  The girls and I used to have exercise nights twice a week at the end of 2012 and the beginning of 2013 but those tapered off.  Now, I only really see them for sabbats (and sometimes, not even that).  I want to get back to seeing them on a fairly regular basis.  I've already created a Facebook group dedicated to organizing girls' nights.  I've asked them what some of their ideas are and will compose a list soon of those for this entry.

Let's take a look at the 2014 goal chart with those added in:


And the monthly goal template:

RELATIONSHIP - 0% Complete
One date night. – Done | Not Done – 0% complete.
One girls’ night. – Done | Not Done – 0% complete.

Some notes:  None.

Just one more entry before we get to the big three!

Next time on The Progressive Planner:
My 2014 Spiritual Goals.

Question for my readers:
What are your 2014 relationship goals?

Thursday, August 22, 2013

Looking Forward

My husband has been in Michigan all week for training.  In just two short days, he'll be back home, even if "home" is currently the most temporary thing in our lives.  When I asked him how he likes his job so far, he told me he actually really loves it.  Music to my ears, particularly during this chaotic week.

I'm currently sitting here sweating at my desk.  The AC in the rental house is out again for the third time.  I can't wait to live in a place where I can just call a maintenance guy.  And, honestly, even if maintenance isn't fantastic, I can figure an apartment AC out a lot better than the archaic thing we have in the downstairs boiler room.  I honestly wonder if that thing is even powerful enough to cool the house we live in.  Wait, no, I know it isn't because my roommates live on the top floor and it's always sweltering up there.  I think it breaks down so much because it gets overworked.  Despite that, it's significantly cooler tonight.  Not looking forward to packing the kitchen tomorrow in the heat, but I'll cope.

I'm also coping with packing and working at the same time while Aaron's away.  It's tough.  I feel like I need a spare me to get everything done - particularly my commissions, which no doubt are suffering from goingtobelateosis.  I don't like being late on anything.  It makes me feel unprofessional.  Of course, I always give notice and my commissioners have always been so understanding.  Couldn't ask for a better job.

So while I'm in the middle of a bit of chaos, albeit optimistic chaos, I'd like to take a moment to look forward to the future.  Since Aaron's job seems to be working out well, we have some things on a list that we're in desperate need of replacing.  One of them is a part of one of my major goals this year - we need a new mattress, box spring and set of pillows.  Aaron and I have spent the last few years duct taping springs back into his decade old, or maybe even older, mattress.  A couple months ago, I got jabbed to the point of blood.  Never mind that some of the pillows I have came from my grandmother who passed away when I was 12.  You can feel the cotton in them clumped.  I spend many a night sleeping on our futon or my roommate's couch than I do my own bed because it's not comfortable, nor does it feel sanitary given its age.  However, because our previous finances, a mattress just never seemed possible.

Not getting a new mattress was one of the many financial "sacrifices" Aaron and I made every year.  We'd take a look at our budget every year, try to work it in, and then something would explode and we'd scrap the idea.  Not this year.  Instead of moving our old, worn out and broken mattress to the new apartment, we're trashing it and getting a new mattress the first week.  I'm super excited to sleep on a fresh, clean, comfortable mattress!

In addition, my digital camera failed me last December.  This was something I'd had on our list of things to buy this year but scrapped it to pay for car repairs for Aaron.  I'd like to get something decent but still point-and-shoot.  Something that would work great for photographing sabbat celebrations for Witchy Words.

After getting the new mattress and camera, we'll probably batten down the hatches and hold out for late November.  During that time, we'll be able to save up more than I've ever thought possible - in fact, I anticipate having our target savings for the year completed by the time Aaron rounds out his 90 days.  In addition, I really want to make sure this job is a good fit and that his company views Aaron as an asset.  We'll know that by the end of November.  And what better way to celebrate it than participating in our first Black Friday ever!

A few years ago, I invested in a cheap laptop.  The lemon of a thing maybe lasted me 6 months before I was mailing it off for repairs.  When I got it back, it was in even worse shape.  I've taken with me on long trips and dealt with its issues, but it's to the point now where it's not even feasible for me to work on it.  As it is right now, it works to watch workout videos but pretty much nothing else, and that's when you can get the stupid thing to turn on. I desperately need a new laptop.  Being able to work away from home or, hell, even in a different room of the apartment, would be fantastic.  It's something I'm regretting I don't have right now while I sit here in the heat.  I could be downstairs if that damn thing worked.  So there's something I'd like to invest in this year.  This will be my Christmas gift to myself.

Something's wrong with our TV's RCA connection.  Has been for about two years.  We haven't been able to hook up anything that requires it, like a DVD player or some of our game systems, because you don't get sound when you do.  It'd been a problem we've dealt with by simply avoiding it.  This year, I'd like to get a simple, cheap flat screen that actually has working hook-ups!  That will be my Christmas gift to Aaron.

The final thing I'm wanting this year is something I wanted ever since Aaron picked up our first cat, Nyx: a cat tree.  A nice one.  Something tall that Hermes can climb up and hide near the ceiling.  Something that has a stern base so Zeus can take his claws to it.  Something that I can hang toys off of, or drench in catnip.  Artie, my dog, has all the toys in the world and more sweaters than I can even count.  It's time I do something for the cats more than bell balls, feather toys and the occasional catnip dump in the entry way.  That will be my Christmas gift to my fuzzy babies.

And of course there's a few small things sprinkled into all of that.  The pets have their yearly vetting coming up this September/October.  I'd like to find out what I can do for Zeus's asthma and get Hermes a blood test - he hasn't had one since we first got him.  I'd like to go to the Six-Week Slim Down course for the fall session.  I didn't last year and my weight suffered.  I'd also like to invest in some wall shelves for my spiritual room at the apartment.

So quickly and for future reference, here's some items I'd like to have purchased before the year is over:

  • Mattress Done!
  • Box spring Done!
  • Four pillows Done!
  • A new sheet and comforter set Done!
  • A digital camera
  • Laptop Done!
  • TV
  • Cat tree
The last month of the year will be light.  All the Christmas gifts will be bought and we'll be back to saving again.  Heck, even buying everything I want to buy, we'll still have some spare to save.  At the beginning of the year, I'd like to reassess our finances and our savings.  If we have spare money, I want to throw it at the higher interest student loans Aaron has.

Previously, I made a list of things I want to do next year.  Some ideal goals to achieve for 2014.  I'd like to bring that back and add some things to the list.



  • Become an active participant in the KC Pagan Community (spiritual).

  • Attempt to attend all sabbat rituals led by Lushede Grove.

  • Attend at least four Coffee Covens.

  • Attend at least two Mystic Treasures classes.

  • Get my own health insurance, either through Aaron or myself. (health/financial).
  • Begin looking into investing money and retirement options as a freelancing illustrator (financial/career).
  • Buy a dining room table (home/financial).
  • Begin thrift shopping again and update Thrifty Difty (personal).

  • Make an effort for a weekly post.

  • Begin a balcony/indoor garden growing the following (health/spiritual).

  • Herbs: Basil, bay, mint, sage.

  • Vegetables: Cucumber, carrots, leaf lettuce, tomato, spinach.

  • Fruit: Blueberries, lemon tree.

  • Other: Aloe, garlic.

  • Buy our first tent so we can camp more often (relationship/financial).
  • Swap all of our storage items and memory boxes from cardboard to tupperware and reorganize (home).
  • Be able to speak basic Spanish again by taking two courses at the local community college (knowledge).

  • Spring: Elementary Spanish 1

  • Fall: Elementary Spanish 2, Latin American Humanities.

  • Continue in 2015 by taking Intermediate Spanish 1 & 2, and interpreting courses.

  • Learn how to swim (health).
  • Attend one convention related to my career (career).
  • Get a set of armchairs (home/financial).
  • Maintain savings and add an additional 20% (financial).
  • Complete a Wreck This Journal (personal).
  • Pay off 1/3rd of Aaron's student loans, starting with the highest interest (financial).
  • Monday, July 1, 2013

    June - The Month I Almost Didn't.

    I could say something fancy about June being the halfway point, the steep slope at the top of the mountain that I want 2013 to be, but that's really not what caused me to fall behind this month.  And, regardless of what the number at the top of my check-in below says, I really did fall behind.

    I think there's an inevitable adjustment period for any major life change.  Even if it's a smooth transition, underlying stress can really bite at you.  That's what I've been experiencing for June.

    My biggest problem was work.  I never intended to take June off.  May was my resting month.  June just kind of got tagged on to it.  My biggest problem?  I still feel like Charli and Eric are visiting.  I can't tell you how many times I skipped work to watch a movie or talk to my best friend in the dining room.  Sometimes, just sitting bored here at the desk will get me working, but I'm not even around my computer much anymore.  And it's not for lack of Charli telling me to work.  I just feel like it's rude to hide back here and not talk to anyone.  And that's my problem.

    I also didn't get much cleaning done.  Heck, I fell behind on my chores.  Given that I previously did all of the chores on the chart, only having to do a few should free up my time.  Instead, I can't even attack them.  Also my problem.  

    In the process, my desk, which was going fairly unused, is also getting cluttered with my things.  It's an easy place to put everything.  We also moved my desk to make room for Eric's desk.  In the process, everything that was on my desk is on the floor.  Still is.  I finally started attacking it today, but it's still a giant mess.

    That being said, I have had some successes this month.


    The first success is that I not only lost 5 pounds, but went on to lose and additional 1.2.  Look at that bad ass number up there.  Not only am I way overdue for my digital camera, but I'm damn close to my Wreck This Journal box set!  I've also jarred $20 for my thrift store shopping spree.  Super stoked.  


    I've volunteered like crazy with ESFOA.  Managing the booth on my own for a little over four hours, I felt like I definitely got the swing of things much better and know more about the organization I volunteer with. I would like to get even more involved and approached Marilyn about it a bit at the event.  I feel like I'm not doing enough.


    I suppose I should add this to my volunteer area.  I've been leading the Circle of Open Traditions since September of last year.  We are an open-faith pagan circle who celebrate the Wheel of the Year in a generalized but special way.  There's currently eight of us sans not-of-faith significant others who often join us for celebrations.  This month, we celebrated the Summer Solstice by camping out in my back yard.  You can read more about that here.

    In addition to maxing out in the volunteer and weight loss sections, I spent a lot of time with my husband.  His help volunteering this past weekend was amazing.  We ended up eating out that day and I still managed to stay in check with a salad from Ventana.  Not too bad!

    So that's about it for June, the month I almost didn't.  I'm going to go ahead and take this moment to bust out my July check-list.

    Friday, January 11, 2013

    Goals for the month of January 2013

    Today, I'm dividing up my goals into achievable steps for this month.  Fairly short and sweet!  Making it a single post will make it easier to access and, come the end of the month, I can tally up my successes as well as not-so-successes.  Expect this post to be updated regularly as I work on these goals.  They will now be updated on weekly check-ins!

    JANUARY 2013 GOALS
    Month is currently 42% over.

    CAREER
    Hit target number of monthly illustrations. - 43% complete.
    Make target income for the month. - 72% complete.
    Draw one illustration for myself. - 100% complete.

    FINANCIAL
    Make target income for the month. - 72% complete.
    Keep budget. - 48% complete.

    HEALTH
    Begin taking thyroid meds - continue for entire month. - 48% complete.
    Lose 3 pounds by eating a salad every day and avoiding take-out. - 47% complete.

    HOME
    Organize my computer. - 100% complete.

    KNOWLEDGE
    Begin taking thyroid meds - continue for entire month. - 48% complete.
    Begin taking supplements - continue for entire month. - 48% complete.
    Begin daily mental exercises. - 25% complete.
    Read one book. - 35% complete.

    PERSONAL
    Begin taking thyroid meds - continue for entire month. - 28% complete.
    Begin meditating. - 15% complete.
    Draw one illustration for myself. - 100% complete.
    Lose 3 pounds by eating a salad every day and avoiding take-out. - 47% complete.
    Adhere to my planner schedule. - 48% complete.

    RELATIONSHIP
    Do one date night: Watch movies in. - 100% complete.

    SPIRITUAL
    Begin meditating. - 15% complete.

    Next time: What happens at Girls' Night most certainly doesn't stay at Girls' Night.

    What is one goal you have to be completed in January?

    Sunday, January 6, 2013

    2012 Relationship Goals: Date Night Ideas



    For relationships, I'm actually really happy.  Despite losing a multitude of friends last year, I actually made a remarkable set of friends from acquaintances.  They are the same girls that come over twice a week for Girls' Night (read: Exercise Night).  We definitely have more in common than I could have ever imagined and I hang out with them pretty often.  As for my marriage, my husband was my high school sweetheart.  We've been together nine years, married four, and still going strong.  But, in the bustle of last year between my parents and everything that went wrong, we ended up spending less time together than I would have liked.  So, when I was making my goal list, I leaned over my chair to the man sitting across from me and asked, "Hey, what are some date night ideas you'd like?"  After a small 20 minute discussion, here's our list of ideas:
    • Movie Night In
    • Ice Cream Day
    • Stargazing
    • Weekend Camping Trip
    • Weekend Trip to Hannibal, MO - I went here in high school and loved it!
    • Improv
    • Alamo Movie
    • Royals Game - We try to make one game a year, but we typically go with his parents.  Not this year!
    • Worlds of Fun - They have a new dinosaur attraction.  I also love their Halloweekends.
    • Expensive Restaurant
    • Chateau Avalon for our Anniversary - This is where we stayed on our wedding night.
    • One repeat date night.
    For January, we're choosing the movie night since it's the easiest to plan and the least expensive.  A lot of the other date nights will need to be saved for.  I mentioned to my husband that I'd take a look at our budget and plan for them, but he insisted he wanted to use his monthly spending money to cover date nights.  So problem solved there!


    Tomorrow on The Progressive Planner: My 2013 spiritual goals.

    What's one thing you could do this year to improve your relationship with your significant other, friends and/or family?